The method to eliminate the anger habit on solve problems youth's quarrel

Abstract

The youth's quarrel problems are frequently found in the present society. According to psychological theories, particularly the behavioral theory and social learning theory, they come from motives for imitation and their own identity efforts. According to Maslow's theory of needs, such behavior can be categorized as the 3rd level and the 4th level. That means, in the 3rd level, it is the need of love, the sense of belonging, and the will of possession of something, and in the 4th level, it is an acceptance requirement from others and a matter of power over others. In the Buddhist view, the root of the problem was caused by the 3 Anger i.e., vengeful, anger, and resentment. These things are the root-causes of youth quarrel which later on can be developed and expressed in into bodily action, verbal action and mental action. Buddhism and Western psychology say in the same voice that the root-causes of youth quarrel just arise from clinging to the one own dearest.

The solutions to the youth quarrel problems can alternatively be done by providing training courses with various activities and suitable evaluation in order to eliminate the anger defilements step by step as following: 1) Be mindful, knowing the true nature of anger. 2) Upon knowing the anger, be patient and try to control it. 3) Giving harmless and forgiving to all who used to behave harshly and badly to oneself. 4) Developing and cultivating loving-kindness and compassion towards all living beings, this kind of mercy will make the anger happen slowly and when faced with the immediate situation, it can quickly anger. 5) It should be important to give each other generosity. To create unity among the faculty. And prevent future controversy.